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I love Carnival!!. Trinidad's carnival! Once a year my senses rejoice at the opportunity to douse my soul with intoxicating soca music, shed my cares and fears, and temporarily transfer my spirit into the mas. (S. Drakes)

Monday, November 06, 2006

Carnival gender double standards

A double standard, according to the World Book Dictionary, is a standard applied more leniently to one group than to another. In other words when a situation is desireable for one group but deplorable for another. On carnival Monday and Tuesday a lot of Gender double standard exist.

1 a) A group of females see a male walking through the band. They think he is attractive, and make comments about his butt, abbs, or crotch. They also jump on him and give him a sexual whine or even touch his chest -ACCEPTABLE

1 b) A group of males see a female walking through the band. They think she is attractive, and make comments about her butt, abs, or breasts.. They jump on her and decided to give her a hard whine or even touch a body part- LABLED AS PIGS WHO ARE ACTING INAPPROPRIATE, TREATING THE GIRL LIKE AN OBJECT.- Unacceptable

2 a)If a girl walks through the band in a t-shirt over her costume- UNACCEPTABLE ( she must be crazy!!, carnival is about women showing off there body .. why is she hiding it up?)

2 b)If a guy even though he has his costume decides to wear a t-shirt instead because of his big pot belly –ACCEPTABLE

3 a)If a girl with a big belly with stretch marks pass by a group of guys they turn their noses up and look the other way because girls are suppose to have a Flawless body- ACCEPTABLE

3b)If a guy pass by a bunch of girl with a big pot belly they still turn there noses and decide to act like if he does exist. UN ACCEPTABLE because they pumpus... they feel they better than everybody!

4a)If a man has sex with a woman on carnival day who he meet on carnival day is considered a "stud" or "player" (which are often considered compliments). ACCEPTABLE

4b)If a woman has sex with a man on carnival day who she meet on carnival day considered a “badthing” or “slack”. UNACCEPTABLE

5a)If a woman becomes drunk on carnival day it is seen disgusting, embarrassing and slutty- UNACCEPTABLE because she got her makeup smeared all over her face and is falling over and can't walk properly .

5b)If a man becomes drunk on carnival day ACCEPTABLE -While drunk men are merely amusing or "a joke",

6a and b)Mostly women are seen In Media photos wheather it be papers or websites, if men are featured they are hardly featured alone…most time they with a big male crew, with females, a celebrity or something special about them.

7a)If a woman doesn’t wear makeup on carnival day hercustume if not complete-ACCEPTABLE

7b)If man decides to wear make up with his costume, he is most likely gay- UNACCEPTABLE.

8a)Girls could whine on girls ACCEPTABLE

9b)Guys could whine on guys UNACCEPTABLE

Let me play devil's advocate - plenty of these double standards have legitimate reasons behind them. Let me hear your comments.


Blogger saucydiva said...

Well you know they always say Carnival is about woman...I mean, look at our costumes compared to the men; sometimes you think that the male costumes are just an afterthought, the women's are so well done and then the male costumes look lame. This year I have seen a few male costumes actually looking decent, but the majority are a big fat NO!

Good post by the way

2:38 AM  
Blogger Icahwait* said...

quite happy with the double standards aren't you?
very funny

3:51 AM  
Blogger kevian said...

Actually, I am not happy.. i think I just grew up in a society where these thing are acceptable, so i think have been swooped into thinking that it is acceptable.

5:04 AM  
Blogger Karabana said...

Y'know, this is all so true Kevian... very interesting, good for you to bring it up! The same scenarios can be to applied to clubs - women who go home w a guy they just met are sluts, men who go to purposely pick up & do, are playas. Scantily clad women are the norm, but a guy wouldn't dare wear such little clothing - well, he could, over on Church St. (Rainbow village). Guys can drink to excess, but women, uh uh, she'll get all kinds of looks & comments. You always see women grinding on women in clubs, but a lot of men don't even hug their friends for all the fear built in them about not "acting gay". & of course, the biggest double standard of all, no pun intended, is how big a man can be & noone judges him, but a woman can't be equally as big. & if she is, she better cover up!!

9:08 AM  
Blogger kevian said...

Karabana you couldn't have said it better.

yeah saucy the majority of male custumes are jus a short pants..!! at the band lauches they hardly even show the male custumes.. it is really all about the women.. but is that right?

When I frist time went down to the custume viewing ( tribe), i went with one of my male friends who was ineterested in seeing the male custumes. When he got there he was disappointed because all they have up were the females...

9:21 AM  
Anonymous B said...

I really wish that it was unacceptable for men to come to carnival with a big pot belly...I want eye candy too! LOL

11:46 AM  
Anonymous B said...

I really wish that it was unacceptable for men to come to carnival with a big pot belly...I want eye candy too! LOL

11:46 AM  
Blogger kevian said...

hahaha I agree with u

2:27 PM  
Blogger Icahwait* said...

ok try from this point of view: would you really want to see the opposite of some of those things you put on there? Some are fallacious - granted.
But when I think of the alternative for most of the points you brought up, I'd rather it stay the same.

p.s do mens costumes ever cross the $2000 mark? we're unlucky

3:29 PM  
Blogger kevian said...

i cah wait I can't blame u if you decided one day not to walk the road half naked on carnival day people think u are crazy or may if no man pays u second look on carnival day because ur belly is big.

Well i guess u also comfotable with women touching up your man on carnival day or maybe someone thinking you are a hoe if u drunk? or decide to sleep with someone u attracted to?

I guess u comfortable with gay men not being able to act like if they gay with out people turning up their noses.. but it cool with for lesbians to whine and grind on each other??

On the other side of this is why hetrosexual men are suppose to have an ego ???.. why can't they hug each other and jump to the music..

Well we all deserve the right to our own point of view and this is mine and that is yours and that is cool.

4:29 AM  
Blogger Hottie Hottie said...

Woman in thongs - Acceptable.
Man in thongs - Bu' wha' de ass!?

6:07 AM  
Blogger saucydiva said...

Hottie did you see a fella one year in Poison in a thong and what looked like a decorated sock covering his penis!!!!???!!!

10:30 AM  
Blogger Icahwait* said...

oh gosh I doh mean to come out that ignorant. Like I get boff

I dont think anybody will want to touch up my scrawny man anyhow :-)
I'm a 'doh business' about other people kinda person. People should do all what they wanna do as long as they're comfortable doing it, and doh study other people no matter what the situation. Because if you can't do it at carnival when else?
I not going to be studying anybody else them 2 days girl.
I wasn't trying to go deep into my opinions like that nah.

1:39 PM  
Blogger kevian said...

i cah wait yuh know is only love i ha fuh yuh@ i ent take it personal and i agree with with u no bothering with what other people have to say.

hahaha I wonder if yuh hubby does be reading this blog? then he might be in tears by now knowing that u think he is

4:13 PM  
Blogger Hottie Hottie said...

Saucy - GGGGIIIIIRRRRRRRRLLLLLL! I nearby break meh neck when I do that double take. And he walking through the crowd eh farting on nobody!

7:11 AM  

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